A few weeks ago while visiting relatives in California a friend having a zero birthday and a midlife crisis called. In reality — by which I mean the “big picture“ snapshot — everything in her world was alright; it’s just that she couldn’t see, well, er…the “big picture.”
My cousin, Josetta, who knows the friend and overheard my conversation, had one word to say: “Next?” I looked at her, trying to read her mind. “Next?” she repeated, this time with the added drama of cocking her head sideways.
But of course!
Next? means MOVE ON! As in…make that phone call, clear that debt, shrug off confrontation, reset your thinking, pursue your passions, risk, and focus on all that is possible and positive.
I love this clean, direct wisdom because its relevance can be tested across small disappointments like a traffic ticket and larger ones, like job turmoil or, yes, even mourning. How you proceed is up to you, as is the timing (let’s face it – five days for one person might mean five months for another) but at some point, I think, intuition leads you to the next place.
There aren’t many certainties in this world. But choosing when to ask and execute Next? is within our reach — always. In spite of the thorns in life, if we’re not moving forward, I wonder, just where are we going?